BULIMIA'S WEAKNESS

FIGHTING DRAGONS 

FIGHTING DRAGONS

     That's what it seems like sometimes. The idea that bulimia is this horrible monster that has taken over our lives. Post purge brings on depression, anger, a feeling of helplessness, and to make it more intense a feeling that we can never "beat" bulimia.

     I have spoken with so many people who feel hopeless post binge and purge. Some really feel like what's the point in fighting this thing?

     So it's like watching someone who wants to train for a sport but they become frustrated because they feel  like they should be able to perfect whatever sport they are interested and succeed in just a few days or so. Honestly it just doesn't happen like that. True becoming abstinent is the goal and the final product. But the PROCESS is the most important thing to keep in mind.

     Some of you remember me talking about this in previous blogs but her is a recap. Bulimia did not happen overnight. It built over a series of days, weeks, and months. The idea that we can leave a habit that we use to control our emotions overnight is an extreme expectation. We need to take a realistic look at the process we need to accomplish this goal.

     Our expectations of overnight achievement is nothing more than a ploy that our "bulimic" self is using to keep us addicted. You would never expect a "friend" to simply achieve abstinence overnight and then make them feel bad if they happen to have that expectation and failed. You just wouldn't. So why do it to yourself?

• COMPASSION
• PATIENCE
• UNDERSTANDING 
• PERSEVERANCE 
• COMMITMENT
• TIME

     These are the qualities needed to acquire an abstinence. 

     Find someone who will help you. Most people end up being bulimic in a vacuum. Most really need to voice of reason and particularly the voice that delivers the messages that go with the words up above. There are people who will help. Seek them out. 

     It is going to be so worth your effort and ongoing perseverance that you will be thanking yourself for the rest of your life. 

     Bulimia like to masquerade as a Dragon, the monster that we can't conquer. It's just a lie that bulimia wants you to believe to protect itself. No one ever said this was going to be an easy task. But again I know it's doable and I know that you have the tools needed to accomplish your goal. 

     As always comments are welcome and if anyone is seeking help please feel free to contact me. 

Bryan